Divorce is rarely easy for anyone, but the process tends to be especially
difficult for children. While nearly all children will struggle somewhat
with their parents’ divorce, there are a number of ways to help
them deal with the situation in a healthy way.
1. Make Sure Your Child Knows They Are Loved
For many parents, this tip may seem obvious. However, it’s especially
important to reinforce your love for your child during this stressful
time. This is particularly relevant when your spouse is failing to show
up for planned visits or other activities. As difficult as it may seem,
you must let the child know that they can continue to have loving, healthy
relationships with both parents.
2. Be Honest & Straightforward
Many parents underestimate a child’s ability to tell when something
is amiss. While your child hardly needs all the intimate details of the
divorce, it’s vital to explain the situation in simple, age-appropriate
terms they can understand. Encourage them to communicate and ask any questions
they may have.
3. Avoid Fighting In Front of Your Kids
Few things make divorce more difficult for children than witnessing their
parents fight. This doesn’t mean that you have to spend time with
your spouse and try to be friends; for many divorced couples, this simply
isn’t reasonable. For your child’s benefit, you must make
the effort to be respectful toward the other parent whenever your child
4. Don’t Use Them as Therapists or Sounding Boards
Children simply aren’t emotionally equipped to handle the stress
of a divorce. In fact, most adults struggle with the process, and often
turn to their children to vent their feelings. If you find yourself unable
to control what you say around your child, you should visit a professional
therapist who can help you deal with your emotions in a healthy way.
5. Encourage Them to Share Their Feelings
Children often have difficulty finding the words to express their feelings.
It’s very helpful to sit with your child, observe their body language,
and help them formulate any questions they may have. It may be necessary
to utilize the service of a licensed therapist or counselor. It can be
beneficial to read an age-appropriate book on divorce together, as it
can help them better understand what they’re going through.
Are you getting divorced? Katy family law attorney Alex Hunt can help you
with your divorce, child custody, and child support matters. Call (832)
781-0320 today for compassionate counsel.